Bridge the Gap: How Communication Can Revolutionize Your Relationships

Learn The Art Of Communication: Supercharge Your Relationship Network

In today’s day and age, it has never been more common to feel misunderstood, alone, inadequate, and longing to escape from our worries. Technology has presented us with the strongest digital age to date, and has given us a lot of opportunities to retreat and escape to a place that feels safer, where we don’t have to acknowledge our issues and deal with them. We also shy away from talking about these issues with our closest people because we feel that they either will not present us with the empathy we need, or even worse, maybe they don’t have these problems at all.

My name is Nick Neve. I have been studying human behavior and relationship connections for the past 15 years, and I’m here to tell you that you’re not alone. In fact, the feelings you are feeling are felt by the greater majority of people on a daily basis, these feelings are just not publicized. The vast majority of people do not have the strong relationship network that they desire, and although they keep an open eye for the right people, things never seem to come together. They notice their current connections are not strong and reliable, but the larger problem is that they have not been able to improve those connections.

I was in this very boat for well over a decade and found out that the reason why I ended up in this situation was because I was never actually taught how to have a strong relationship connection with another person. It really was a mind blowing moment. This skill was not taught to me in my family, school, among my friends, or in the workplace. It was just assumed that everyone knew how to do it, and did it well. A skill that seemed so simple, easy, and was expected to me automatic, was not in my head and I did not know how to do it. After coming to terms with this truth, I set out to learn the information was missing on how to build strong, lasting connections with the right people. I have since revolutionized the way that I interact and communicate with people, and I’d like to help you do the same so you can be proud of your connections and feel like they are strong, inspiring, and reliable FOR YOU.

In this article, we’re going to focus on communication, because this one aspect has by far been the most beneficial skill in changing the course of any relationship in my personal experience. In fact, if you only focus on this one thing out of all the information out there concerning relationships, this is 80% of the entire game. Sounds exciting right? Maybe we’ve even heard this before? But here’s where things get interesting. We’re actually going to talk about how to communicate effectively to both improve and strengthen the quality of a relationship. What makes a strong relationship? When people feel strong, secure, understood, cared for, and supported on both sides. We can help the other person in the relationship show up for us in the way that we need through correct communication, and we can also help support the other person in the way that they need by communicating effectively in a way that works for them. Let’s dive right in.

Exceptional communication lies first in the ability to step outside of ourselves and be empathetic for another person’s world and experience. We have to keep in mind that not everyone has grown up in the same way as ourselves, experienced the same things, and may not believe the same things. Having an understanding for this allows us to then come up with the best way to communicate with them so that you will have the best chance to be heard and understood by them. If we skip this step and just assume that everyone else is on the same page as us and should understand us perfectly, our relationships and connections will not be as strong because we won’t be “getting through” to the people we care about as well as we desire to.

Here are a few tips that will help navigate difficult conversations with a mindful communication approach:

• At the beginning of an interaction, ask the other person questions first to learn more about how they feel instead of just bombarding them with solutions to try to fix them, is a much more empathetic approach and will serve you in building a stronger relationship with them.

• Each person that is going through something wants to feel understood and validated where they believe that it is ok to feel the emotion that they are feeling. Being supported by a close friend, family member, or partner is one of the most beneficial things when early on in the conversation.

• Sometimes, having the other person come up with solutions can be the best way to get them to take action. Asking things such as “What do you feel called to do here?”, “What does this mean for you?”, can put the other person in the power seat by making the solution their idea, instead of the chance of feeling inadequate due to the suggestion coming from someone close to them.

• The importance of listening and being able to give the other person your time when they are speaking and sharing something important to them is truly a lost art and much needed in today’s modern day society. Listening is a skill that must be learned and it is well worth the effort. Explore my other newsletters for more info on this superpower.

• Asking a simple question such as “How can I best help you right now? Tell me what you need most in this moment”. This is a powerful approach that really puts the person’s self care and healing above everything else, and lets them know that this is the most important thing in your eyes as well, for them to feel better.

• Another tip is to ask the person if they are open to suggestions or would just rather you listen in this moment. Again the most important thing being that you are helping them with what they need.

Investing in good communication tips such as the ones above can do wonders for all your relationships and will lead other people to feel more appreciative of your energy and good nature. They will value your connection more and their bond with you will continue to grow stronger resulting in a truly strong, reliable relationship that feels good and makes you proud. I consider these tips gems that are not taught in schools, the workplace, or families. Unfortunately in this world, we have to seek out the real skills that will empower us in life, as those are not taught freely in the curriculum we grow up with. However, for those of you who understand this and research this information, and for those of you who accidentally stumbled upon this blog, you have discovered a great gift to empower your life forward. Cheers to your continuing journey.

- N